Black, Woman, American, Blogger, & Student

Identifiers. They label us and present a version of ourselves to the world around us that the world before they get to know us. For me, my general identifiers at the moment are the 5 you see in the title of this post: Black, Woman, American, Blogger, & Student. At this moment in time, these identifiers rule my life. They permit whether or not I get a job, where I can live at the moment, the activities I can partake in, my life in general. But your main question may be, why is race the first identifier for me? Because it is the first thing anyone sees and it categorizes my experience in this world, especially in America. Race has defined how I experience life and in today’s world, I can’t escape the notion of how race plays a role in every other identifier and my experience in the world.The Hat Logic - Black, Woman, American, Blogger, & Student, black women, black bloggers, female bloggers, fashion bloggers, fashion bloggers honesty, honest bloggers, lifestyle blogger, black female blogger, atlanta blogger, for love and lemons, revolve, aspen cierra photo, self-love, race relations, black girl magic

For the past 2 years, or ever since I went to college, I have had a few revelations about how race impacts my life because when I was growing up, I lived in a bubble. I lived and grew up in a color blind bubble, or at least I thought I did. The world does not look at a little black girl and think about how sweet and docile she is, just as they do not look at little black boys as sweet and docile. As I look back, I realize that the people, especially adults, in my life, no matter their skin color, never treated me the same as they did the other children around me. This is a trend that followed me through elementary school, all the way through to my present: college.

Growing into my current self has made me come to the reality that the world is not as diverse as it may seem. As other people of color around the world have been saying for years, people of color are not valued in this world. My entire life has been spent fitting into a box that was never designed for me. I was told to break a glass ceiling that keeps getting higher and higher, and aspire to be a skinny, toned, perfectly tanned white woman, when in reality, I will never be that girl. As I grow into myself, let me explain to you how race played into each of the other 4 aspects of my life.

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Society Doesn’t Love Black Women

Aggressive, Not Very Pretty, Too Dark, Thunder Thighs, Slutty. These are just a few of the stereotypes that I’ve been plagued with in my life, but I am none of these (except dark skinned). I’ve played sports my entire life so I am competitive, but never aggressive, which also contributed to my legs being larger than the other kids around me. I’m not a Victoria’s Secret model, but I’m not unattractive. I’m dark skinned and proud, but there’s no such thing as too dark. Don’t @ me on this. And to that last one. I’m not a slut, not a whore, I’ve never had sex and I’m really not a sexual person. Society has placed so many stereotypes on black women that we are expected to present at all times, but in reality, a majority of black women are not like this at all. Black women have to be strong, delicate, and fit stereotypes that are impossible to fill. Race has played such an important part of my life because I’ve had to battle these stereotypes from each and every part of my life.

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America’s Not Too Happy with Black People

We have Trump. We have the KKK. We have the Alt-Right. We have white supremacists. We have a multitude of hate groups around every corner. We have racists in the corner store and in the board room. America thinks Black Lives Matter is a hate group or terrorist organization (please refer here, here, here, and here to see why that’s a load of crap) and we are literally having debates about whether or not we should remove statues that were used to intimidate people of color during the 20’s. America is not happy with black people and race has been a focal point of how I act in my life. As an American, I have to represent my country and my people at all times, denounce the President and his racist comments, but also explain to the rest of the world that people of color don’t act like how we are portrayed in the media and we don’t like Trump just as much as the rest of the world hates him.


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Where Are All the Black People?

Take a look at your Instagram. Take like 3 minutes, stop reading, open the app, and look at the first 10 people who come up. How many of these people are people of color? If it’s diverse, great for you, I’m proud! If you don’t see a lot of people of color, take a moment and realize…where are all the black people? In reality, there are a lot of black women who are in blogging, but the blogging community and brands do not come together to raise them to the same level as white bloggers.

Take a look at your Youtube subs. Take like 3 minutes, stop reading, open the site, look at your suggested videos at the top of the page. How many of these people are people of color? I’ll answer again for you, not a lot, I’m willing to bet. Black women and women of color overall are not valued unless they do beauty for black women or hair care for black women. We are supposed to fit into a certain niche, but the industries that we are supposed to work with don’t cater to us. Explain why I see 10 shades of beige and tan next to 4 shades of medium-dark brown  on foundation shops. That is a key to why representation matters. Representation means that women of color are supported and can get the same opportunities as our white counterparts. It means that when beauty brands make foundation or concealer shades they make an equal part or a varied part of the spectrum. It means that when brands use the #AllWomen or “We Are Women”, women of color are included and not sidelined, just because their skin color does not match a brand’s identity politics. Great black bloggers like Kristabel, Gracie, and Stephanie to name a few, have been mavens in the world of blogging while black, but there’s also bloggers like Anastasia, Yossy, and Rebekah who deserve love and represent bloggers. There are amazing black vloggers out there, like MayaPatricia, Nikki, and Jackie, who have been recognized by a segment of the community, but there are also others like Jaz, Autumn, and Debbie who also deserve love and support from the community! Change does not come overnight, but just like other aspects of life, it is up to the community at large and white bloggers to make a point of supporting bloggers of color just as they have been supported and people of color supported their content in the past as well. Stop saying that everyone looks alike. Stop saying that the same people get all the campaigns and do something about it, don’t make it a pretty trend, support the movement.

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Apparently, I Talk White

If you’re black, how often have you been told, you talk white? I grew up during all of my forming years being told, you talk white? What does that mean? Inherently, it means that white people are the only people who can be educated, when in reality, black women are the most educated group in America. I don’t talk white. There’s no such thing as talking white.  Just because I don’t sound like a black stereotype off of TV doesn’t mean I talk white, it just means that I am my own person. Being articulate doesn’t mean I’m any less black, but also using AAVE doesn’t mean that a black person is any less intelligent or unworthy of an education. As a black college student, I have to fight harder than other students to get certain opportunities, just to make it to the same paths. Emory is a diverse college, but only 9.1% of 7180 or so students, the population of black students is small. In my classes, I’m noticing that in 4/6, I am the only black woman if not the only black person in my classes. At a large university like Emory, it’s not only sad, but it is shocking. I was fortunate enough to have a lot of my family members, including both of my parents, pose as people to look up to as people who participated in higher education. Nothing can prepare you for being black in college, especially at a PWI (predominately white institution). The incessant struggle to prove oneself and constantly have people doubt your intelligence when you have worked just as hard as they have to get into the same university is real. To my white peers, I don’t blame you for all of it, but you have to talk to the people of color in your life to get some perspective. For my fellow people of color students or students entering college, it doesn’t get easier, but just know you aren’t alone. The questions will never stop and you don’t have to educate all of your white friends on their ignorance 24/7, just live your life.

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I have never talked about this before on the blog, but I want to share my experiences and remind people who are entering blogging or just in need of motivation that just because people don’t look like you, you should still do what you love. Don’t be defined by the identifiers in your life, just be yourself. At the same time, make a conscious effort to promote diversity in your life, whether it’s life, school, friends, or in the people you follow on Instagram. Start the conversation and although people may not see your perspective, it’s worth trying and showing your worth. Each and every one of us is special in our own way and we all have a specific influence that should not be downplayed based on the color of our skin. I’ve been limiting myself due to fear of backlash and hatred from the community as a whole and the people in my life, but you know what? Fear does not, and will never rule me or my life, so here’s to content that matters and makes me happy, no matter what.

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10 Comments

  1. Clare
    September 3, 2017 / 1:53 pm

    Beautiful post! Hope you are doing well. So sorry to hear about your dad. Geneva Holliday told me about his death.

  2. September 15, 2017 / 6:54 pm

    I always support diversity which is why it makes me happy to collaborate with brands that value it as well. I hate seeing the same type of woman being represented across multiple categories especially on social media. It’s unfortunate that it’s still an issue we face today but I’m glad there’s people like you who is shedding light on this topic.

  3. September 16, 2017 / 7:32 pm

    Thank you for this completely honest post. I understand where you are coming from and can sympathize with the challenges you face as a blogger, student, female, and more being a black woman. I am Asian and feel that as minorities we have to work harder and play smarter to beat the system sometimes. We all have stereotypes placed upon us and sadly it is our job to prove them wrong. You are such an inspiration and definitely defy all of the prejudices that have been set on you. I think posts like this help to spread awareness about our ignorance and injustice and help to make the community more knowledgeable. xoxo, Christine
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  4. September 17, 2017 / 12:40 pm

    This was such a good read. With all the recent events that have been happening in the states, it’s just really discouraging, like we’re going backwards when we should be going forward. I actually sort of deal with semi-racism in Japan, as some Japanese people still see mixed people like me as “foreign.” It’s actually quite lame as Japan is becoming more and more diverse. Anyways, keep doing your thing, you are BEAUTIFUL <33
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  5. September 17, 2017 / 5:29 pm

    Thank you for sharing this post. I commend you – great insight. Good luck in college.

    Xxgracie

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  6. September 18, 2017 / 5:09 pm

    This post was very insightful about the experience of black people that aren’t often mentioned, well ever here in Australia. It’s sad and detrimental to our progress as a society that marginal groups discriminate, and vilify people of colour. I do agree that people treat people of colour differently, and often worse than our white counterparts. At the end of the day, the amount of melanin in our skin does not equate to our value. It is our actions, and our intentions that matter most of all.

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  7. September 19, 2017 / 1:05 pm

    Wow babe such a incredible post and love the fact that you are talking about real things in your blog. I have to agree that you don’t see much instagramers or youtubers with dark skin color an thats a shame I think in the soil media world and in te entire aspect of the world we should have diversity and all be treat equally no matter where are they from, what the skin color are of the region. I been traveling in Africa almost for a year and I have actually learned a lot about this subject and sharing your thoughts for me is equally valuable.

    BTW you look fabulous in that dress!

    xoxo
    Marcy

  8. Sharon Wu
    September 22, 2017 / 12:55 pm

    Loving that blue dress on you girl! It’s perfect for fall 🙂 I totally agree with you on the importance of diversity — I’d love to see brands represent more Asians too! The modeling industry was really tough on Asians before I transitioned into blogging. But I think that as you said, everyone is special in their own way and deserve to be represented! xo, sharon

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  9. September 25, 2017 / 10:57 am

    Really great post, Jordan. I agree with you that change can only happen if support comes from us supporting each other. The more we as a society talk about the lack of inclusivity in the world, the less it can be ignored. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us.

    xo, Jo

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