Keep Your Hands Off My Body

Before this starts, if you have any sort of trigger that deals with sexual assault, please stop reading. xx

I really didn’t know how to write this post because it’s so personal, but at the same time, such an issue. If you don’t know already, I spent 3 weeks in Rome. Being the cheap person I am, I decided to take a cheap bus to Fiumicino Airport and now that I’ve done it, I regret not spending the extra money and splitting a cab with a friend. When I was on the bus, a very sexually aggressive Italian man decided it was perfectly fine for him to put his hands on me and I’m very vocal in saying…KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF MY BODY!The Hat Logic - Keep Your Hands Off My Body, Rome, Sexual Assault

For an hour, I was stuck next to this man and no matter what I did, from speaking up and telling him to buzz off to making up a fake boyfriend, I would still find his hands on my legs and waist, using my backpack to push him off. I hate unwanted attention, I really do, so I was so uncomfortable with the entire situation and I just wanted to die.

The Hat Logic - Keep Your Hands Off My Body, Rome, Sexual Assault

I was being sniffed, touched, and in plain terms, assaulted and in reality, in what point is this ever okay? When is it ever alright for someone to think that they can put their hands on a person? I know that in Italy, there are not a lot of black women, so often times, if there is a solo, black woman, she may be a prostitute. I do know that I am not a prostitute, nor do I look like one, especially on that day. There is never an excuse for someone to be placing their hands on someone unless they have explicitly consented to such actions.The Hat Logic - Keep Your Hands Off My Body, Rome, Sexual Assault

I asked multiple women who have traveled to Italy or other countries and you know what was shocking? This is not the first time this has happened. Women across the world have experiences like this in mass numbers, which makes me so angry. I’m not an object. Women are not objects. I keep trying to wrap my head around how this keeps happening, but in reality, I will never be able to process this. It is a disturbing fact at how many women are sexually assaulted on a daily basis, simply because people do no think about how women feel when they assault them and put their hands on them.The Hat Logic - Keep Your Hands Off My Body, Rome, Sexual Assault

This entire experience put me off of Italy and in all honesty, makes me never wants to go back, but I know that I must do so. I can’t let one experience put me off of an entire country because that would be letting fear run my life. To the man who touched me, I hope your hands fall off, but I also hope you realize that just because you want something, does not mean that you can touch it. I, and no women no matter who they are or what they look like, are not objects who have to be poked, prodded, sniffed, and touched just to satisfy your sick needs. To the people reading this post, I hope that if you are ever in a similar situation, that you speak up and know that this is not normal. It’s degrading and never okay, so be strong and don’t ever let someone make you uncomfortable.

The Hat Logic - Keep Your Hands Off My Body, Rome, Sexual Assault

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  1. Sillysoul
    August 9, 2017 / 11:00 am

    Sorry that happened. It sucks when that happens when you are traveling especially. A dude decided it was okay to just stalk me around a museum once and it really soured an otherwise lovely exhibit. May your future travels be smoother!

    • August 18, 2017 / 5:52 pm

      Men are so strange?! Like why do people do things like this? Just plain creepy!

  2. August 10, 2017 / 4:38 pm

    I’m sooo sorry to hear about this experience Jordan! It sounds horrible. What a disgusting start to a trip that would have been so wonderful. Luckily when I was in Rome I was with my boyfriend. But this type of behaviour does not surprise me coming from Italian men. And I hate to stereotype. I’m sure there are plenty of lovely men out there! Unfortunately, you witnessed the horrible sort.

    I hope this doesn’t make you feel anxious about exploring other places. Sadly there are creeps all over the place, but now you’ll know how to defend yourself if it ever happens again.

    🙁 very sad, but lovely post

    Kara

    • August 18, 2017 / 5:56 pm

      I wish it hadn’t happened, but at the end of the day, it makes you stronger and I’m sure my next trip to Italy will be smoother. I’ve just learned what to do and what not to do! I’m glad I can use this as a learning experience for my future travels, it was just jarring because of how it happened on my very last day! Thanks for the lovely comment Kara!! xxx

  3. August 13, 2017 / 8:33 pm

    Oh wow, i’m so sad that this happened to you.

    I was nervous about traveling to Italy because I read about how black women sometimes can be considered prostitutes. To be honest, i’m always a little on edge when traveling to Europe because of that. I try to wear plain jeans and tee’s but sometimes occurrences still happen. It sucks that no matter how we dress or behave that we still get harassed . Don’t let that experience ruin Italy it has so much to offer, especially the southern area 🙂

    • August 18, 2017 / 6:07 pm

      I will definitely be going back in the future thankfully! I try not to let things ruin my experiences and I’m glad I now have learned what to look out for and how to respond better in the future!

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